Fall seven times…stand up eight

“Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to get through this thing called life” ~Prince

You know what really screws us up the most in life? The picture in our head of how it’s supposed to be. This life isn’t do or die. It isn’t a straight road. Its curvy, winding roads. We got hills and valleys..mountains to climb. Life changes every minute of everyday. You lose friends, you gain friends. You realize your friend wasn’t really ever your friend and the person you used to hate can make a really good friend. You look for love. You find love. You lose love. You realize along the way, you’ve been loved. You have ups and downs. Some days you will have no idea how you’ll do it. But every single day it still gets done. You must have the confidence to know that you will get through anything that life has given you. The motivation to do it. It’s certainly not going to be pretty at times. It takes grit and determination in its highest form. You will learn as you go that you have the capacity to do a hell of alot more then you thought given the right motivation. Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you can go, just remember how far you have come. Remember everything you have faced, all the battles you have won and all the fears you have overcome. If things were easy, life would be dull. In the inspirational words of some of Disney’s best..

Just keep swimming -Finding Nemo

Reach for the sky-Toy Story

Hakuna Matata..it means no worries for the rest of your days-The Lion King

Even miracles take time-Cinderella

They say if you dream about something more than once, its sure to come true-Alice in Wonderland

Have a wonderful day my friends. May your coffee ☕be strong and your Friday be short😘

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Here’s what:

Balm for broken blisters – to disinfectant a broken blister, dab a few drops of Listerine ..a powerful antiseptic.

disclaimer:  I am not a professional, I am not a doctor ( nor do I play one on TV)

I am just a wealth of useless information.

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Gits & Shiggles🤓

So here’s a little FYI for ya… if you wear your old prom dress👗 to the pharmacy, they’ll fill your antidepressants faster…your welcome😉😉

Pants on fire🔥

“Honesty is a very expensive gift, don’t expect it from cheap people” ~Anonymous

Know your circle. Make sure everybody in your “boat” is rowing and not drilling holes when your not looking. Be so very careful whom you trust, if someone will discuss others with you, they will most certainly discuss you with others. Remember, an honest enemy is always better then a friend who lies. Pay less attention to what people say, and more attention to what they do. Their actions will show you the truth. Drive very cautiously on this road we call life, people will turn on you with no signal.

Have a Beautiful Day. Shine like the whole universe is yours♡

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Did you know that drinking two glasses of Gatorade can relieve headache pain almost immediately without the unpleasant side affects caused by traditional pain relievers?

disclaimer:  I am not a professional, I am not a doctor ( nor do I play one on TV)

I am just a wealth of useless information.

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Gits & Shiggles🤓

My friend stopped by the other night and asked me why I carry a gun🔫 inside my house..I told her I am afraid of the CIA. I laughed😀 she laughed😀 the microwave laughed🙃

Raindrops💧💧💧 Keep Fallin on my head

🎵🎶The sun will come out tomorrow bet your bottom dollar that tomorrow there’ll be sun🎵🎶

Why are you complaining about the weather? It’s not going to change it. Weather is. It’s going to do what it’s going to do. Sooo..make your own sunshine 🌞or go dance in the rain☔ make snow angels😇 but seriously stop complaining about the damn weather! If your going to accept the sunshine and the warmth then you must accept the cold and the rain. Work around it, work with it. If you can’t find the sunshine, be the sunshine.
Your happiness should never depend on the weather.

Happy Hump Day😘

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Here’s what:

Cure a urinary tract infection with Alka-Seltzer. Dissolve two tablets in a glass of water and drink it on the onset of the symptoms. Alka-Seltzer begins eliminating the urinary tract infection almost instantly… even though the product was never advertised for this use.

disclaimer:  I am not a professional, I am not a doctor ( nor do I play one on TV)

I am just a wealth of useless information.

……and now I’ll do what’s best for me

“When you let go, you create space for better things to enter” ~Buddha

Listen, every time you get upset, ask yourself if you were to die tomorrow, would it still be worth being upset over? So, that being said, if it’s sucking the life out of you, stop giving it attention. If it’s a job, you need to quit. If it’s a person, cut them out. If it’s an activity, by all means, STOP …Stop letting anything or anyone but YOU take the wheel. It’s going to be okay, really. Time WILL pass. Get outta there and make your dreams a reality. You don’t deserve anxiety. Your not operating at your best when someone or something else is in control. Take over! Get some good vibes crankin! And just be happy in your own skin. Love your life.. delete the rest💛

And most importantly…Have a Beautiful Day♡

Your Royal Hairness

Yes, I am that girl. I am that girl on a quest for perfect hair. You know as well as I do, like me, you put a multitude of products in your hair at any given time. Including your shampoos and conditioners. Along with a plethora of styling agents. Mouse, gel, sprays, shiners, oils, waxes, etc. Oh, yuck that product build up.  Oy, our poor tresses.

This is pretty simple here. Get in your car and drive to the grocery store and pick up a good-sized bottle of Braggs ACV. What? You’ve never heard of it? Have you been living under a rock? Braggs Apple Cider Vinegar. Heaven in a bottle. No lie, there are about 30 different uses for this lovely elixir. No, I am not a rocket scientist. Nor am I an expert..on, well anything really. I like to say I know a little about a lot. Just call me a wealth of useless (or useful) depending on your view, information. And I wouldn’t call myself high maintenance. But boy, am I a picky bi***. Listen I like what I like. But I also will try anything once. How else would I know. So, getting back to heaven in a bottle. I’m not here to preach about everything this Raw, Organic, Unfiltered “salad dressing” can do. Oh, lets see, like losing a bit of weight, soothing a sour stomach, a wonderful cleaning solution for, well, almost anything, restoring the PH in your skin(and hair) Just Google it http://www.swansonvitamins.com/blog/jenessa/apple-cider-vinegar-uses I’m not makin this shit up. But seeing is believing. Seriously, who doesn’t want shiny, bouncy ,clarified, free from product hair. Apple cider vinegar contains acetic acid which, when applied to your scalp, removes excess buildup left from styling products and shampoos. I only wash my hair about two times a week so I only use this concoction ( water and Braggs ACV) once a week.  Remember that old adage “to much of a good thing”. I gotta tell you that the day I use this on my hair, is the day I get the most compliments. Funny, there’s something so healthy sounding about clarifying and bringing the PH back to your hair.

Ah..so sweet and simple

Go buy your self a little travel size plastic bottle with a cover from the dollar store.

Fill it with about a quarter to a half cup of Braggs ACV ( yes it has to be Braggs brand) Raw, Unfiltered, Organic. Then add about a cup (or two) of water. Shampoo your hair with your shampoo of choice. With your head tilted back (or forward) put/pour your Braggs rinse over your hair slowly, guiding it with your hand. You might not use the whole thing depending on the length of your hair. And please friends be oh so careful NOT to get in your eyes. This does not feel good, yes, I have done it. I suppose its one of the things you can’t use this for, your eyeballs👀 Then massage it deeply in your scalp and hair. Leave it in about 5 minutes. Rinse well. Proceed with a small amount of conditioner of your choice. Leave that in about 2 to 3 minutes. Rinse with cool water. FYI: did you know that rinsing your conditioner out with cool water is so much better for your tresses? *It makes your hair shinier and saves you from frizz *It makes your scalp cleaner *It improves the blood circulation to your scalp. I’ve been doing this for many, many years. See, I told you I was a wealth a useless/useful information.

Again, I’m no expert… I’m just a girl, on a quest for perfect hair….

Hey look..bonus stuff;

● Use a 100% cotton Tee Shirt instead of a towel to dry your hair. Drying your hair with a standard towel can absorb too much moisture and rough up the cuticle, causing extra frizz. Been doing this one for years as well.

 

●Take a cotton ball and swipe some of that Braggs ACV over your face before you put your moisturizer on. It seriously makes your skin tighter and brighter. If you have sensitive skin, dilute it with water.

●While you have that cap off of that Braggs, take a swig. Yeah, that’s what I said, take a swig, a shot, whatever you want to call it. Just do it! Instant energy and lovely for your insides. 

And most important…Have a Beautiful Day♡

Become what you believe

“To many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears”

                                     ~Eleanor Roosevelt

Did you know that you only fail when you stop trying? Every accomplishment starts with YOUR decision to try.Failure will never overtake you, if your determination to succeed is strong enough. Just because the past didn’t turn out like you wanted it to, doesn’t mean your future can’t be better then you ever imagined.This is life my friends, if plan A didn’t work… the alphabet has 25 more letters. Start each day on a positive note, even if your not feeling it or it hurts. Like when it rains look for rainbows or when it’s dark look for stars.Think about it, stars can’t shine without darkness, right? You don’t even know how powerful your mind actually is. When you fill it with positive thoughts your life will start to change. We absolutely believe what we tell ourselves. So if you are negative about your life, thats exactly how it will be. Do you ever walk around saying  “my life sucks” “I hate my job” “Im fat”, if you find yourself falling into these negative thoughts, notice next time you even say one of these out loud, you will feel even worse by saying it. Positive affirmations..  Sound silly?  Cliché?  Try it. Say something positive, out loud. “The best is yet to come” “I am important” “I am strong” “I can do this” “I will do this”. See,  you just had some practice just from reading this.  Make it a ritual.Why not create the highest grandest vision possible for your life,  because you do become what you believe. Another reason we fail is fear. Fear seems to paralyze us. We can talk ourselves right into fear with that negative self talk. Self esteem and self love are the opposites of fear. The more you like yourself the less you fear anything.

And here’s something very important to remember in your quest to succeed and be happy in your life. Eject the naysayers from your surroundings.  You know the ones that want to tell you what to do with your life. The self righteous, negative (yup,  there’s that word again). People to weak to follow their own dreams will always find a way to discourage yours. Funny , they seem to know what’s best for your life but still have yet to figure out their own.Trust yourself. Mistakes are going to be made. That is part of your life’s journey.  But they are your mistakes to make and nobody else’s. And do not let those mistakes deter you from moving forward. Remember, you will always pass failure on the way to success.

One positive affirmation a day

Say Yes to No

Overwhelmed?  STOP, literally stop right now and think about the times you have said yes, when you really wanted to say no. … “NO NO NO” Kinda feels good. I don’t say it often enough (but I’m learning) I guess that comes with the territory of being a people pleaser. Or if you do say it. The guilt that is attached to it also goes along with us people pleasers. Refuse to please others at the expense of your emotional well being even if it means saying no to people who are used to hearing yes. Simply declining does not make you a bad person. You will still be liked. And if you’re not, well that’s not your problem that’s the other person’s problem. If others get mad because you say no occasionally they are not people you should be surrounding yourself with anyway .God forbid you say that awful word “no”. It is possible to say no without making excuses, without lying, without over explaining yourself. Just kind of let it roll off your tongue. It’s that easy. Right? Saying no means you know your limits. And we all have them. Again, we are not bad people because of it. Give yourself permission to say no without feeling guilty, mean or selfish. You have to make peace with this “complete sentence”. That’s right, no is a complete sentence. It does not require explanation or justification. Actually saying no can sometimes be the ultimate self care. Never feel bad about doing what’s best for you. Remember, you teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce. Much self respect comes with staying true to thyself.

Check list towards self preservation:

*do not let other people hurt you

*set good boundaries

*hang out with people who appreciate you

*always be compassionate with yourself

**say NO when you mean NO

*always appreciate yourself

*SMILE and be happy 😊

” there is a sense of calm that comes with self-preservation”

To Dad …with Love

 Hi Dad…so the 5 year anniversary of your death has come and gone on June 8th. Every year I post something on Facebook to honor you. I was very quiet this year. I don’t know why. Yeah, stop laughing I know, me quiet? After all, I am my father’s daughter. I was feeling quite somber and kind of blah. Actually, just how I’ve been feeling lately. Oh, it’s not that I don’t miss you because I miss you terribly, every day, all day. There is not a moment since you have been gone that I don’t think about you and wish you were here. Sometimes I still just can’t believe that you’re gone. Funny, I go by the “Dip” as you used to call it (The Donut Dip) where you were somewhat of a staple with your eclectic group of cronies. Drinking black coffee, eating your donut or bagel and yenta-ing about all the goings on.I could go by there eight times during the course of a day, and I’m fine, I really am and then I might go by one more time and that last time if I just happen to look over there in the right way a wave comes over me and I pretty much lose it. I wonder if they remember you there. You know people die all the time, and of course, they’re honored and people miss them and then it just goes away. Life marches on… people march on. I so get it, it’s just the way it is. People have good intentions. Come on, I don’t expect everybody to remember every single person that has died and think about them all day long.I have to tell you since you’ve been gone it has not been easy without you. It’s just so silly that you had to go. Yes I know it’s not your fault this is the process of life I guess. And I could say it’s not fair all I want. But I have learned the hard way in more ways than one that life is not fair. It’s just so weird, sometimes we are only given what seems like a few minutes with the ones that we love. And then thousands of hours to spend thinking about them. I really like to think that someday far away from now, that I will see you again. I like to think where you are I will be going. And it’s a nice place, a good place. So cliche to say, but a place where there is infinite youth, no illness or pain. Endless amounts of sunshine and happiness. Do you think that’s a bit of a pipe dream? I like to believe that’s where you really are and I also like to believe I will be there with you someday. After all, It’s gotta be better than this. This life that I’m still in. It’s not easy. I’m sure you knew that before you left but it’s gotten even harder. There’s a lot of bad stuff going on around us. That’s why I still want to believe wherever you are you don’t have to deal with all the sadness, sorrow and pain like we do here.

So it’s going to be Father’s Day on Sunday. I couldn’t just let the anniversary of your death and Father’s day go by without you knowing how much I think about you and how very much you are loved still and always. It doesn’t matter if other people have perhaps forgotten about you and their life is going on. All that matters is that I have not forgotten about you. That would be virtually impossible. It’s hard to forget someone who gave you so much to remember . I so miss you Dad. You were one of a kind. All the wonderful memories I have I keep close to my heart.  That way I can keep you with me always . You gave me wisdom. So easily. Your life’s wisdom. Just from things that you have gone through. Your advice was always true, and real. You used to tell me that you knew everything. And you know Dad, now that you are not here I have to say I really think you did… know everything that is. Unfortunate that it took for you to pass on for me to admit that you know everything lol you always said to me no matter what I was going through. The most pain that you could see your daughter in. You would say  “this to shall pass”. Although it never seems like it’s going to. I suppose it does pass and then there’s always something else that sneaks up behind it. It’s an evolution of sorts. Nothing really stays the same. It might get better for a little while, that certain situation. And then there’s a new one to be dealt with. I guess I’m stronger than I think. I believe you used to tell me that too. It’s hard to see it when you’re in it. When you’re going through something so hard. But I have to think to myself, look I’m still here, still standing and I’ve gotten through it. Something else I always wanted to thank you for. Something that seems to get me through my days, my weeks, my months, my life. My humor, my humor that I got from you, Daddy. That witty, bantering kind of crazy funny. Yes, I got it from you. This is something that perhaps gets me through life. I think that your humor and your wit got you through you’re not so good times as well. Maybe tears of a clown? I don’t know but whatever it is I feel very blessed and lucky to have been passed down this wonderful quirky crazy silly personality.

Well, Daddy, I’m going to say goodbye for now although it’s never goodbye. It’s, “I’ll see you again someday”. Everybody told me since you passed that I will see you in my dreams.  Well,  in 5 years I have never once seen you in my dreams. I’m not worried. I’m not worried because I’m stubborn (like you) and I will continue to go to sleep every night hoping to see you in my dreams. Goodnight my sweet Daddy. I hope that you are resting in never ending peace. Lord knows that you deserve that. I will see you when I see you… Happy Fathers Day..love always and forever… your favorite and only daughter, Sherry 💗

” when someone you love becomes a memory… that memory becomes a treasure”

Happiness and heartache

” Dogs lives are too short. They’re only fault, really.” ~ Angus Sligh Turnbull

One of the hardest aspects of our relationships with dogs is the great difference in our lifespans. When you open your heart to a dog, you do so knowing that you’re probably going to outlive him or her. The abundance of joy that dogs bring to our lives is worth the pain we feel of losing them, but oh, how awful that pain can be.

Sadly, we are given the gut-wrenching responsibility of making that difficult decision. The empathy and selflessness required to say, “I understand that it hurts too much, and I love you enough to end that suffering” is enormous!

 Life without your dear companion is definitely going to feel empty and raw. Embrace this grief. It’s okay to feel sad . It’s so very hard to adjust to life without your precious soul when they’ve been a fixture in your life for any amount of time. 

 

There are constant reminders that they’re no longer there, and it’s normal to have that raw pain that can come over you like a wave. The empty dog bed, the silence when the mailman visits, the lovely dance they do when you ask if they want to go for a walk.

 

At some point, grief does fade, although it never truly leaves us. You’ll find yourself smiling and laughing at memories of your dog instead of crying. Reminders of your dog’s happy moments will make you joyful. Perhaps a new relationship will blossom with another dog, of course never replacing the relationship that you had with your lost companion. You will be richer for the lessons that your old friend taught you. Each new dog benefits from the teachings of the ones who came before, and opening your heart to a new dog when the time feels right can be a beautiful tribute to the dog you lost. 

💗This is dedicated to Roger & Joann Dalessio in the loving memory of their sweet Katie..who has just crossed over to the Rainbow Bridge💗

Rest in Peace Sweet Katie

 

 

Positivity is lovely

Negativity perpetuates itself, breeds dissatisfaction and clutters your mind. And when your mind is cluttered with negativity happiness is so much harder to come by .When you fill your thoughts with right things the wrong ones have no room to enter. Negative people thrive off of other negative people, It’s like oxygen to them. And when we are vulnerable and already feeling down, it’s easy  to start breathing in their oxygen. Negative people are usually unhappy with themselves they ruin other people’s happiness  because it’s hard for them to find their own. And we all know that misery loves company. We may not be able to control someone’s negative behavior but you can control how long you participate in it. Always protect your spirit from contamination. People inspire you or drain you, pick them wisely. Make a conscious effort to surround yourself with positive nourishing and uplifting people who believe in you, encourage you to go after your dreams and we’ll be there to applaud your victories. Always be kind to yourself. And have a positively lovely day 🌹

“A beautiful day begins with a beautiful mindset”