Overwhelmed? STOP, literally stop right now and think about the times you have said yes, when you really wanted to say no. … “NO NO NO” Kinda feels good. I don’t say it often enough (but I’m learning) I guess that comes with the territory of being a people pleaser. Or if you do say it. The guilt that is attached to it also goes along with us people pleasers. Refuse to please others at the expense of your emotional well being even if it means saying no to people who are used to hearing yes. Simply declining does not make you a bad person. You will still be liked. And if you’re not, well that’s not your problem that’s the other person’s problem. If others get mad because you say no occasionally they are not people you should be surrounding yourself with anyway .God forbid you say that awful word “no”. It is possible to say no without making excuses, without lying, without over explaining yourself. Just kind of let it roll off your tongue. It’s that easy. Right? Saying no means you know your limits. And we all have them. Again, we are not bad people because of it. Give yourself permission to say no without feeling guilty, mean or selfish. You have to make peace with this “complete sentence”. That’s right, no is a complete sentence. It does not require explanation or justification. Actually saying no can sometimes be the ultimate self care. Never feel bad about doing what’s best for you. Remember, you teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce. Much self respect comes with staying true to thyself.
Monthly Archives: June 2016
To Dad …with Love
Happiness and heartache
” Dogs lives are too short. They’re only fault, really.” ~ Angus Sligh Turnbull
One of the hardest aspects of our relationships with dogs is the great difference in our lifespans. When you open your heart to a dog, you do so knowing that you’re probably going to outlive him or her. The abundance of joy that dogs bring to our lives is worth the pain we feel of losing them, but oh, how awful that pain can be.
Sadly, we are given the gut-wrenching responsibility of making that difficult decision. The empathy and selflessness required to say, “I understand that it hurts too much, and I love you enough to end that suffering” is enormous!
Positivity is lovely
Negativity perpetuates itself, breeds dissatisfaction and clutters your mind. And when your mind is cluttered with negativity happiness is so much harder to come by .When you fill your thoughts with right things the wrong ones have no room to enter. Negative people thrive off of other negative people, It’s like oxygen to them. And when we are vulnerable and already feeling down, it’s easy to start breathing in their oxygen. Negative people are usually unhappy with themselves they ruin other people’s happiness because it’s hard for them to find their own. And we all know that misery loves company. We may not be able to control someone’s negative behavior but you can control how long you participate in it. Always protect your spirit from contamination. People inspire you or drain you, pick them wisely. Make a conscious effort to surround yourself with positive nourishing and uplifting people who believe in you, encourage you to go after your dreams and we’ll be there to applaud your victories. Always be kind to yourself. And have a positively lovely day 🌹